Sexual Orientation OCD (SO-OCD) is a subtype of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder involving intrusive, unwanted doubts about one’s sexual orientation. These doubts are not based on desire, identity exploration, or attraction—they are driven by OCD’s cycle of intrusive thoughts, fear, and compulsive attempts to gain certainty.

SO-OCD can affect people of any orientation: straight, gay, bisexual, questioning, or otherwise. The defining feature is not the orientation itself, but the obsessive uncertainty and the compulsions aimed at resolving that uncertainty.

People with SO-OCD often experience:

• Sudden intrusive doubts about their orientation
• Images or thoughts about being with someone of the same or opposite sex
• Fear of “discovering” a hidden identity
• Hyper-focus on reactions to people, photos, or scenarios
• Confusion between intrusive thoughts and actual attraction
• Fear that the thoughts themselves mean something
   

The distress comes from not knowing—from the fear of being wrong, missing something, or losing one’s identity.

Compulsions are attempts to gain certainty or disprove feared conclusions.
They may be mental, behavioral, or avoidance-based.

• Monitoring body sensations for signs of attraction
• Comparing reactions to people of various genders
• Testing yourself by imagining sexual scenarios
   

• Asking partners, friends, or therapists about your orientation
• Consuming online content to “figure out” whether the thought pattern matches orientation
• Reviewing memories of past relationships
   

• Analyzing every thought, feeling, or micro-reaction
• Ruminating on past experiences
• Trying to reinterpret previous attractions
   

• Avoiding certain people, gyms, media, or topics
• Avoiding intimacy for fear of “finding out the truth”
• Avoiding places where triggering thoughts tend to occur
   

• Replacing intrusive thoughts with “correct” ones
• Creating mental counter-arguments
   

Compulsions offer short-term relief but strengthen OCD long-term.

SO-OCD attaches fear and urgency to orientation—for many people, a core part of identity, relationships, sexuality, and self-understanding.
This makes thoughts feel higher-stakes, leading to:

• Overinterpretation of normal thoughts
• Hyperawareness of bodily sensations
• Confusion between anxiety and attraction
• Thought-action fusion (believing thoughts equal reality)
• Fear of irreversible life changes
   

The OCD cycle looks like this:

Intrusive thought → Anxiety → Compulsion → Brief relief → Stronger doubts

ERP disrupts this cycle by targeting the compulsive response.

Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) is the evidence-based treatment for SO-OCD.
ERP helps by:

• Allowing intrusive thoughts to arise without trying to fix them
• Reducing reassurance and checking behaviors
• Exposing yourself to uncertainty without seeking clarity
• Weakening the link between fear and identity
• Rebuilding confidence in your ability to tolerate doubt
   

• Viewing triggering images or scenarios without checking reactions
• Writing and reading imaginal scripts involving feared outcomes
• Reducing self-testing behaviors
• Allowing uncertainty instead of chasing clarity
• Resisting mental reviewing
   

ERP does not attempt to “prove” an orientation—it teaches the brain that certainty is not required for functioning.

You may be dealing with SO-OCD if you:

• Feel distressed by sudden, intrusive orientation doubts
• Monitor your body or reactions to check for attraction
• Fear losing your identity or previous orientation
• Question your past experiences repeatedly
• Avoid triggers to prevent intrusive thoughts
• Seek reassurance that you are “really” straight, gay, bisexual, etc.
• Feel stuck in cycles of mental reviewing, self-testing, or comparison
   

The core feature is not orientation—it’s obsessive doubt.

SO-OCD affects people:

• Of every sexual orientation
• At any age
• In or out of relationships
• Regardless of past experience or identity stability
   

It commonly overlaps with:

• Intrusive thought OCD
• Relationship OCD
• Moral scrupulosity
• Fear-of-fear OCD
• False memory OC